While listening to a podcast this morning, I heard the story of a guy who was working as a lawyer, all so he could support his family. However, he wasn’t present for his family. This message really struck home.
With tight schedules and a drive to move something forward, its easy to sacrifice the people we are doing our work for in the first place. I, recently, haven’t been present for my own family.
What I’ve learned from this is that I need to set boundaries. I have posted on work-life balance recently, but going deeper, I need to focus on working only when I don’t have to sacrifice time with my wife and my son.
I have an even deeper issue. I am an introvert, and I tend to have a lot going on in my head all the time. I may be thinking up new ideas, processing information about existing ideas, dreaming of tanning on a yacht in the Mediterranean, whatever. It’s not that my body isn’t always present, its my mind that isn’t always present.
This is a recipe for disaster. After all, they are what I live for.
I used to keep track of all of life’s ‘Aha’ moments; those moments when you have a particularly profound insight. If its your practice to keep your mind open to them, you will have them daily. My ‘Aha’ moment for today is that I am not being the best husband or the best father I can be.
Take a moment and examine your own life. Are you working hard so you can provide security for your family, but really short-changing them by not being fully engaged in the present? Its often easy to lose sight thinking we are doing the right thing, but actually need an adjustment in our thinking.
My take for today? Do as I say, not as I do!